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Learning from the Horse - June 19 - Distance and Time

“I hate being away from home” said the girl who couldn’t bear to leave her precious horse for more than a few days.  I am a creature of habit - my bed is the best bed there is - I like my own stuff and my familiar surroundings. They give me a sense of belonging. They make me feel comfortable, I have purpose.

And it’s really easy to wake up one morning and realise you haven’t had a holiday in 10 years. And it is even easier to tell yourself that was because you don’t like being away anyway.

But what if I had been missing the rapture this whole time?  What if getting out of your comfort zone is the only way to truly know what you want and where you are going, the bigger picture?

Distance and time create something unique and boundlessly useful. Especially useful to an “over thinker” like myself. They create perspective. I almost feel like I should capitalise the word such is its magnitude. Perspective.

The thing that you can choose or not choose to utilise for yourself. The thing you can also utilise with your horse. If I get out of this situation, and look in on it from a distance, and give myself time, would I be doing things differently? Staying in the moment with your horse is essential, but if that moment part of a bigger goal, be it improving health or training, are you regularly reflecting – are you taking perspective and viewing the situation or desired outcome objectively?

I had an amazing short break in Amsterdam with beloved girlfriends at the beginning of June. Pure recreation, holiday. But actually so much more than that. Because taking a few days away from my animals helped me to realise I am over protective. Missing them revived our relationships when I returned.  Taking some time off work, which I have arguably done to the exclusion of all else for at least 3 years now, such is the bind of self employment, reminded me how much I love it. It gave me the space to think about the next steps, where I want my career and learning journey to go. It also reminded me how important time off is for your physical and mental wellbeing. How essential downtime is in order to give the best of yourself. Like the young horse who has some training, then gets some days off, always seems to progress faster, than the horse who is intensely worked without a gap. The dust can settle, the understanding has time, the experience is more positive and therefore more repeatable. Anything done to excess, even that which you love, will often either burn out, or become monotonous.  

Just a few days away, and I feel changed, renewed and rejuvenated. Now to catch up on 10 years
of absence of perspective. Switzerland next, and, I am going to try and start having weekends off too!